Get in a corner.
Going to my daughter's games can be so awkward.
On one hand, because I'm so competitive, I have to try really hard not to be the crazy dad on the bleachers who’s yelling at the refs and screaming "in your face" to the 8th graders on the opposing team
On the other hand, I have to have really confusing conversations with my daughter.
"You don’t have to win, just have fun. But you should really try to win. But it’s okay if you don’t win. But you should really try. I’m fine either way. But you should win."
Yea, I know I have some serious problems with wanting to always win.
But you know what's cool? Win or lose. I’m there for her.
Do I want my daughter to win? Absolutely.
But win or lose, I’m always in her corner.
Win or lose, I’m there.
When she makes an incredible play, I freak and fist pump. When she misses a bunch of serves, I still fist pump.
Doesn’t matter what happens or how she performs, she knows that when she looks up, she will daddy sitting on the bleachers in the 'corner' of the gym.
Always in her corner.
Well, that's not entirely true. I missed a couple games because I was traveling. You know what she said to me? Dad I don't know if I even know how to play without you being there.
Can I ask you a question?
What if that’s the missing piece? What if that’s what so many of us have been missing?
What if the reason most of us are lonely, depressed, addicted, not growing and stuck spinning our wheels in cycles of sin, is because we are missing being a part of a community that is committed to being in our corner?
Now I know it sounds crazy but what if it’s true? What if it’s true and what if it’s possible?
What if you no longer had to go through life fighting your own battles alone? What if you woke up every morning knowing that there was a group of people committed to being in your corner and rooting hard for you no matter what?
That sounds awesome doesn't it? You'd really like that wouldn't you?
Good, 'cause I'm about to tell you the best guaranteed way to get people in your corner. You ready?
Get in a corner.
The best way to have people in your corner is to commit to being in someone else's corner.
I know you were hoping for a 4-step recipe. Or a website. Or a special prayer.
Unfortunately I don't have any of those. All I have is a truth I've seen play out over and over again.
People that have people in their corner are almost always people that are committed to being in someone else's corner.
In other words, generally speaking, the people who have best friends are usually people who ARE best friends.
I don't know about you guys but I used to think community was reserved for the most outgoing, energetic and good looking people.
Perhaps that is true in high school.
But in real life? I don't see it. I know extroverted people who are lonely and I know attractive people who can't point to a close friend in a crowd of 1000 friends.
It's just the way life works. If you want people to be in your corner, you have to first commit to being in someone's corner.
I don't know how long it will take and there are seasons of drought but if you commit to being the kind of community/friend/spouse/church member that you want others to be, someday soon you'll look up and see a whole section of people cheering in your corner.
Get in a corner. Commit to being there for someone no matter what.
It changes everything. I promise.
And oh, by the way, you know what's worse than not having anyone in your corner?
Not being able to say you're in anyone's corner.
Get in a corner.
Be honest, when you look in your corner, do you see anyone that's always there?
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