Sometimes you just want to give up on people.
You don't make it easy do you?
I'm done with you. Done.
[That's what I told myself a month ago]
It's over. Good thing this relationship was only for a season right? I mean, we both knew from the start that we would inevitably part ways eventually.
I guess I'm just fast tracking the process. In my heart. I can't physically be away from you for a while. But emotionally? It's done. I'm done with you.
I give up on you.
But it's not for lack of trying because I've tried. To listen. Love. Pursue. Apologize. Encourage.
But nothing seems to work. You don't seem to get it and from my vantage point, you never will. So I give up.
Don't worry, I won't make a scene. In fact, you might never even know I gave up on you. I'll be cordial and nice but I'm done trying.
I'm done with you.
That's what I told myself four weeks ago regarding a "friend" because I thought I had nothing else to give.
I literally told myself... "I'm done with him" and truth be told, I actually meant it. I was really ready to be done.
Problem is, something weird happened. The moment I said those words, I realized I still had something to give.
Shucks! This decision was supposed to be lead me to a dead end but instead I ended up on the freeway.
I realized I couldn't give up on him. I don't mean to be cliche at all but it's just what happened. I realized I couldn't give up. Not because I didn't want to but because Jesus hasn't given up on me.
See that's where the strength came from. His grace over me is what gave me grace for him.
I'm not saying it's easy. Or even that he deserves it.
I'm just saying as long as I have a blank check of grace from Jesus, I'll always have enough in my account to spot people a few bucks.
All that to say, I can't be done with my 'friend' in spite of all he's done because Jesus is not done with me in spite of all I've done.
It doesn’t sound very spiritual but sometimes it’s just easier to emotionally check out on people (especially those permanent relationships that we can't just walk away from like family, co-workers, neighbors e.t.c).
Sometimes we just want to give up.
But we can’t.
Because of the cross.
See, the argument for not giving up on others is not that they deserve it but that Jesus never gives up on you.
I know it’s hard but I promise you, the moment you fix your eyes on the cross, you’ll find strength to give a little more.
Have you ever wanted to give up on a relationship? Be honest. You can use a fake name if you want but tell of a time when you've been tempted to give up on someone or maybe you actually did.
EDIT: To clarify, not giving up on people in this context means we can always forgive and extend grace e.t.c. And although I think most of us give up too easily on relationships that stretch us, It does NOT mean we have to continually expose ourselves to toxic/abusive/unhealthy e.t.c relationships.
How do we know when it's time to actually walk away from a relationship?
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